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Tuesday, 16 September 2014

How often should a boyfriend/girlfriend have sex?

I just want to ask this out-of-my-blog-theme-question to anyone who would be reading this blog. And forgive me to this ignorant question because this simple query really boggles me. I would really appreciate all insightful comments.

How often should a boyfriend/girlfriend have sex?

I am on my early 20's and isn't it the peak season of sexual intimacy? Is it normal in a serious relationship to have only sex once every three months? Taking the word serious, we are in a commitment. I have opened this issue with her before if you would ask, but her answer was clear -- there is no problem.

I would be open to all sorts of questions, I don't mind answering it all.

6 comments:

  1. once a week ako pag nasa relasyon ako.kasi once a week lang kami nagkikita. pag wala akong karelasyon, hindi important ang sex sakin jan pwede sakin yung once every 3 months. lels nabuhay ka huh.hahaha. if youre a person na into companionship and less sex, siguro pwede iyan once every three months as long as You understand each other. hahaha lels.

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    1. @-mark- Hi patatas! Long time no blogging eh hehe. Ngayon lang ulit hindi na busy. Once a week or once every two weeks kami nagkikita. Parang long distance relationship lang. Her reason pag inaaya: 'next time.' We've been together for 2 years na and what makes this even harder and what makes my ego hurt is yung previous relationship niya, they do it once every month or often than that. Sometimes this becomes the reason of our fight. Para lang akong nagbebeg sa sex. Kaya recently i dont wanna argue na to have sex with her. It seems na kung hindi ka magaaya, walang sex mangyayari even years siguro haha which now makes me think the otherwise. :)

      PS. we often talk dirty. sometimes siya pa nagiinitiate ng topic about it. pero i feel that its her way of keeping me sane.

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    2. ouch. nakarelate ako, sa past ko parang ganyan me pagkakahawig, ayaw ko naman pag awayan namin kaya natuto ako na ang love ay hindi naman puro sex lang.haha medyo contradicting hindi ko maispell ang gf mo tol, kasi kung nagtalk dirty kayo pero ang sex ayaw niya, baka nga yun ang reason, palusot kumbaga. pero still, para sakin kasi, Ok lang na walang sex, basta masaya ako na mahal ko siya. Oral sex lang ok na hahahahaha. pero pag nagpatuloy yan bro, pwedeng lumikot ang isip mo at makagawa ng kung ano, kaya payo lang stay faithful if you really really love her. napapakanta at napapasayaw ako ng "talk dirty to me" hehehe

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    3. Haha contradicting diba? Minsan I feel awkward na nga kapag nagsstart siya ng dirty topic, I would switch topics agad pagkasagot ko sa kanya :) I mean, what is the point of talking dirty kung walang real thing. Ano na lang tayo puro imagination? I really dont like din to pick fight for sex. I asked her straightly if it's performance wise issue ba? Am I not good in bed? She answered, hindi naman there's no problem. She doesnt feel the urge lang daw to do it always. And I respect her for that. Still, I know for sure there is a problem. I think it should be a mutual feeling between couples to make love and no coercion. Kahit nga oral sex I would love to pero nothing. Nothing to release this tension. And yes fuck buddies? hehe nagiisip na ko ng ganyan Mark lately I hate to admit it. Pero im going into that kind of battle myself kung gagawin ko ba o hindi. Hopefully not haha! My hands are always there to stop me naman haha, if you know what I mean.

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    4. hahahaha. try to change your style kaya in bed.wahaha kung me chance na gagawin niyo ulit, be more romantic pa, sa kalagitnaan, be wild. hahaha. mag analyze ka ng mga bagay, from start to finish, kung me mali ba while youre in bed, kung me part ba sa ginagawa mo na naiilang siya at di niya gusto. second, pag usapan niyo without argument kumbaga ay mahinahon, kung ano mali.kung me mga gusto ba siya pag nagsesex. if you dont eat her "you know" then do it, hehehe dont hate to admit about fubu kasi natural yan na maisip mo, lalo na sa situation mo, kaya lang baka me karma. noon kasi kinarma ako hahahahahaha

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    5. Haha I tried mark. I tried to be romantic in any way possible. I tried to be that sweet guy to comfort her and also trying myself to seduce her. I tried to be rough at times as well and eating her is not a problem. We just had a talk about this earlier again and the worst thing I have ever done is to compare myself from her ex. Naging mapusok lang daw siya before and malibog daw kasi yung partner niya. Sabi pa niya, ngayon daw hindi siya lagi nalilibugan. And I was like, WTH? So, what am I now? A righteous person in your righteous relationship? Ako taga-tama sa nagawa mo sa past mo? You have given every inch of yourself numerous times to the person na nanloko sa iyo before and right now i'm the one who suffers. And wala kang libog sakin, once you just felt it lang? What am I? A best-friend acting to be your lover? I don't know what to do now. Feeling ko she's trying to reserve herself from someone else thinking na if we do it always, iiwan ko lang din siya bigla. I tried to be as pleasing sa conversation namin but didn't work. Right now, since I love her and vowed myself to be faithful, I'll pretend to be that holy priest who practice celibacy. And hopefully matagalan ko tong pangungumbento ko haha! Thanks mark! Interested din ako sa naging karma mo. Share mo naman para magkaidea ako haha!

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